17 Jan 2017

Pathways to Success

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I am so honored to be included in the Pathways to Success Podcast series hosted by Julian Placino.  It is tremendously fulfilling to have the opportunity to share my journey with others.  One thing that I am constantly reminded of is the fact that there are many of us out there . . . domestic violence survivors, caregivers of the mentally ill and amazingly strong women who refuse to let life’s “hiccups” get in their way.

Below is the link to my recent interview with Julian.  I hope you will take a few minutes out of your day to listen to our conversation.


(also available on iTunes)




15 Sep 2016

How my story might have been different had guns not been a part of the equation?”

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Gun Panel Discussion

Genesis Women’s Shelter & Support

Luncheon Lecture Series

Meadows Museum

(SMU Campus)




My husband suffered from mental illness and as his illness escalated, so did the verbal abuse that over time escalated to violent behavior. He was a very sick man and when his illness became un-manageable, I asked for help.


I repeatedly pleaded with the Champaign County Sherriff and the Illinois State Police to help me remove his rather expansive collection of firearms.


No one came . . . .


My cries were dismissed as an overreaction to a marital spat . . . . perhaps a precursor to what would probably end in nothing more than messy divorce.


On February 27, 2009, our story ultimately ended with an attempted murder / suicide in that he shot me three times with a .45 caliber hand gun and then turned the gun on himself.


Three of our four children were in the home at the time and only by the Grace of God were they spared. It was our youngest child, my daughter who was then six years old that came running when she heard my cries for help. The memory of her father’s face with blood pooling out of his mouth is emblazoned in her precious little mind forever.


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